The, “One direction – forward” theme of this blog is intended to focus on living in the here and now, and continue to build moving forward.
My past has some pains in it that the less-healthy parts of my heart and mind seem to wish to spend time in. I have done my stint in re-examining and re-feeling events, hurts, and disappointments of the past. I feel I have learned all I need to learn for now, and that life is far better leaving the past where it belongs – in the past.
Surely the past will never leave us completely. There is value there. What we do need to leave behind is anything that limits us. Re-adding equations that never added up is a waste of time. As is revisiting over and over pains and injustices we experienced.
We only remain a victim as long as we cling to the event that hurt us. For most of us, it is time to move on.
The “One direction – forward” phrase is borrowed from Mad Men character, Don Draper. Don Draper is a man with a past he wishes to forget. Perhaps not for the healthiest reasons. But he does recognize that yesterday is gone, and that today is a new day. In an early episode, Don Draper tells someone from his past, “My life moves in only one direction – forward”.
In another episode, he told a colleague who had an experience she wished to forget, “This never happened. In fact, you will be amazed at how much this never happened”.
While neither situation were things that were necessarily the best judgement, the dialogues do serve as helpful emphasis of the practice of not being limited by things we can do nothing about.
I’d like to offer a suggestion; let go of the past. The bad parts for sure. The good parts will stick with you anyway. They have helped make you who you are today. But the bad stuff, close it out, and let it go. Don’t be limited by it. The degree to which you allow it to happen, is the degree to which you allow yourself to be a victim. And a victim with a choice is actually a volounteer.
Join me in moving forward. It is a great journey. There are things to discover you will never imagine existed. I am already a few steps along the pathway, and let me report back to you that the road leads to many wonderful places.