Do feelings of being used by your teen ever leave you feel like puking?
You love them from the bottom of your heart. You adore them. You celebrate their achievements, give them things you only dreamed of when U were one, make time to help them, drive them here, drive them there, pay for this, pay for that, cook food they like, counsel them, mentor them, then they break your heart and leave you feeling like…. well… puking (at best).
Requests to do the clearly stated chores… which still only amount to 2% of the housework are responded to with reluctance, eye rolling, avoidance, and arguments.
They report to you how their friends don’t have to do chores and their parents give them what they want.
You redecorate and re-furnish their rooms only to have them be kept in squalor.
You take them on vacations only to have them argue and fight with each other starting as early as the passport office, then on the plane, then while on a tropical beach, and continuing til arrival home when you ask them to unpack their own luggage.
I am ranting, yes, because I am determined to not take it personally and love them anyway. Believing more and better for them than they can for themselves at this stage.
But it hurts! At least it does today. Yet I know this too will pass.
Parents, step-parents, grandparents, guardians, would you throw me a lifeline here? Just for today?