I have learned so many things recently and in the past 10 years from people for whom I have a distaste.
I have come to realize that the messenger delivering a piece of truth to me is often immaterial. In fact, a skill that adds to my ability to learn, grow and move forward is the skill of learning from virtually anyone or any circumstance.
My wife and I were seeing our family counselor this week (aka, The Referee) to continue to work through some of our family blending matters. We have both proactively and reactively sought his guidance over the past few years since we have been married and raising our kids.
The Referee was in some kind of odd mood this week. He was somewhat abrupt in his feedback to us and just a little off his game. We have been seeing him for 2 years and this was the first time he was out of sorts. Must have had something going on in the background that he was being affected by.
I determined that since I had invested time and money into this session, that I was going to get something out of it in spite of his atypical mood. Now I didn’t care for the way he communicated some of his advice to us, but I applied it nonetheless and wouldn’t you know, it worked!
Yes, even if the messenger is a little off kilter does not mean he cannot carry a message. I find I cannot let my petty biases nor offendability get in the way of what lessons I have coming my way.
Most often, we will be spoken to by imperfect people who imperfectly deliver our messages to us. I am glad that I have learned to receive as much as possible from all the messengers in my life. Including the ones I don’t care for. Developing this ability is proving to be a tremendous asset that pays returns.