Even if we have been victorious in many challenges in the past, it is not uncommon for us to have some thoughts or feeling while in a new challenge whisper to us that this one is the big deal-buster! Our head may suggest,
“We’ve made it amazingly through many challenges, but this one is going to sink us”.
This internal dialogue is not valid. Previous challenges have refined and verified our ability to overcome and persevere, so why not believe in who we are? As victorious veterans of life, we are in a better place today than any previous time in our lives!
Where this misleading internal dialogue comes from, who knows. Not important. Just know that we don’t need to listen to it.
As a parent, step-parent, husband and manager, there are no shortage of new challenges that come my way on a daily basis. When they do, I make high priority of reminding myself, this is a “Through” thing. Not an “in it forever” thing, not a “this is the big one that will sink me/us” thing. It is simply another in a series of challenges otherwise known as life that I/we are moving through.
Plenty of proven old saying, distilled over the decades and centuries support this outlook.
“What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”.
“If you’re going through hell, keep going”. (by Winston Churchill nonetheless)
“This too shall pass”.
I am so glad to have been able to share this outlook with my teenage son recently. His soccer team made the playoffs. They finished second overall in a league of 12 teams. They have proven themselves to be a great team; he has proven himself to be a great player.
Yet he was quite nervous and doubtful of his and his teams ability to succeed in the playoffs. I was able to help him see that with his past successes, there was no reason to believe this next game had any greater risk of being a loss than the games prior, most of which they won.
His nervousness lessened, he trotted onto the field with greater confidence, and they even won!
Similar situations have happened just this week with business matters and other family matters. The challenges continue to be things we move THROUGH, and not things we remain STUCK IN.
When the inevitable challenges arise in life, my wife and I are much more prone to helping one another realize that this is simply another “THROUGH” thing. So the sooner we get on with calmly and acceptingly doing what we can, the sooner we will be on the other side of it.